Great sex ranks differently on many people's relationship values lists, and therefore figuring out whether it's okay to stay together for sex is a much trickier question than it initially seems. The answer seems to be contingent upon how the relationship stands up to certain questions, so if you're staying together strictly for sex, here are some things you should ask yourself:
Are you happy?
First and foremost, this is the most obvious and most important question to consider. Some people are easily satisfied in life, and you shouldn't be embarrassed to admit if you are one of those people. If sex ranks extremely high on the list of values you place on your significant other and your relationship, and the two of you are happy in this respect, then it may very well be that your relationship is fine at this point in your life. If you're unhappy however, you should probably read on.
Did your relationship start out purely physical?
If your relationship began on a purely physical basis, and you now find yourself unhappy, then it may very well be that you are maturing as a person and want more out of a relationship than simply good sex. This is more than okay, as this is a great sign that you're growing as a person. Wanting more out of a relationship is never wrong, and if the person you're with can't, or won't, fulfill burgeoning expectations, then you shouldn't stick around for sex, even if it is that great.
Did your relationship start out more emotional?
If the answer is yes, then the relationship is in a much trickier position than the previous question. There can be a lot of reasons as to why your relationship has dwindled down to being only sexually satisfying, but chances are that the two of you have grown apart as people. As to whether the relationship is merely experiencing temporary emotional turbulence is a question only you can answer. From an optimistic point of view, however, staying together by way of great sex can be a great way to get through a tough period in a relationship.
Is the other person emotionally attached to you?
If you're still in the relationship strictly because of great sex, but your partner is in it for emotional reasons, then on a strictly moral basis you should end it. Staying together for sex is theoretically okay if both parties are in it for the same reasons, but if one or the other is emotionally attached as well then feelings are going to get hurt. The longer the relationship, the greater that hurt is going to be, and unless you are a robot in disguise, you're not going to want that on your conscience either.
It should be pretty obvious by now that the answer to this question is not as simple as it may seem. Or maybe it is….what do you think? Is it okay to stay in a relationship for sex? By Elliot Yoo for BounceBack helps people find happiness after heartbreak.
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